I visited Mistress V, the-disciplinarian.co.uk for the first time, yesterday. It was also my first meeting with a new mistress in 9 years as I prefer to build a strong, lasting relationship with one disciplinarian rather than move from one to another. My previous disciplinarian retired 12 months ago and I was in desperate need for punishment so it was time to bite the bullet and find someone to help me hence my visit to Mistress V. and my subsequent delight in finding her.
Having scoured the web, I decided to contact Mistress V. firstly by e-mail and provide my basic needs. Asking if she would be willing to see me, she replied within a couple of hours confirming she would and so a date and time, the following week, was agreed. A couple of days before I was due to visit, I phoned her to confirm my appointment and to provide some additional information about me.
Perhaps I should explain that I am a mature male who needs and has always needed regular discipline. I do not want to regress into my childhood for naughty boy spankings nor do I want to enact any fantasy. Instead, I need very simple but thorough, no frills, disciplinary punishment that is appropriate for a grown man and without any role-play, fancy dress or the like.
In the short but pleasant call, I explained this to Mistress V. adding little else other than to say I needed a ‘damn good hiding’. This seemed to please her as she said ‘good, that’s my favourite!’
I am always anxious travelling to an appointment for discipline but this time, was even more so as it was a first time meeting. With a deep breath, I rang the doorbell and the door opened. From behind it, an authoritative voice instructed me upstairs and into the punishment room where the bench was ready and waiting. As Mistress V. had followed behind, it wasn’t until we were in the room together and she walked from behind me that I saw her for the first time and what a surprise! Mistress V. far more beautiful than the pictures on her website. She is also petite, which belies the authority she exudes, and has an amazing figure!
Politely and respectfully, I was reminded of the purpose of my visit, which was similar to the information I had given to Mistress V. over the phone but to which she added that I deserved and would be punished severely. I half expected to be asked if I had anything to say but was not and now realise that Mistress V. is very smart and was able to assess my needs and me without asking a single question. With no time wasted, I was dispatched to an adjoining room to prepare for punishment and wait until called.
Back in the punishment room, the instruction to mount the bench was given and I was advised that restraint was necessary due to the intensity of the punishment I was to receive. With each leg strapped tightly to the bench, above and below the knee, and another strap across the centre of my back my bare bottom was incapable of moving an inch.
I will not go into the details of the punishment other than to say it was intense and at times, difficult however I must mention the care and help that Mistress V. gave me. Firstly, this was through her talking to me throughout the punishment and politely explaining each stage. She then showed me each implement and explained her reason for using it before putting it into use. Finally, she took great care to calm me when I got into difficulty. Throughout, I was never under any illusion that Mistress V. would ease up on the punishment and to be honest, would not have wanted this. Instead, she was determined I would see it through to completion and so her help and coaxing was greatly appreciated.
Finally released from the bench and given a welcoming hug, Mistress V. fed back on my conduct, which was all very positive. I was directed back into the adjoining room to get dressed after which I left, very sore but feeling so much better in myself and delighted to have found my new disciplinarian who also wants to see me again.
I cannot recommend Mistress V. highly enough. If like me, you need good, honest plain discipline then you are unlikely to find a more skilled, professional or authoritative disciplinarian than Mistress V. Her commitment to my well-being and her ability to assess my needs without asking together with the care she put into helping me through to the end says I could not have been in safer hands. This will be true for anyone visiting her regardless of their experience. It probably goes without saying that I will not be visiting anyone else!
It was my first visit to a Disciplinarian. A title Mistress Victoria uses, along with Dominatrix. Yet the word Disciplinarian is more evocative for me, as it conjures memories of school discipline from a time when the strap and cane were commonplace.
Whether it was luck, chance, or destiny that led me to Mistress Victoria, I’m not sure. I knocked on Her door and stepped into Her world. And within a few moments I knew I had made the right decision. She mesmerised me with eyes that seemed to look deep into my psyche. My instincts told me She was naturally in control. And the “me” of work, anxiety, stress and tedious normality melted away as my stream of consciousness sentences sketched out what being disciplined meant to me.
I imagine everyone who has receives corporal punishment has a unique and nuanced experience. Mistress Victoria listened and understood.
At this point a great leap of faith was necessary on my part. I knew deep down I wanted to surrender all control. She had to have all the power, and I none. No safe words, just total acceptance of Her strict will, manifested through Her favourite leather punishment straps. I submissively and obediently presented myself over Her whipping bench and She ensured all the restraints were securely fastened. No squirming, no escape. The cocktail of hopelessness, submission and obedient acceptance was flowing through me, and it was intoxicating.
The next forty minutes were completely exhilarating, Literally, a sensory roller coaster where my emotions and endorphins bounced off the walls of subspace; My first ever experience of this phenomena and it was extraordinary.
I won’t reveal too much detail, but as an absolute beginner, I found Mistress Victoria to be a consummate artist in administering the strap. As a newbie I hadn’t a clue what my limits were. Modest at best, I assumed. But She built up the levels expertly. Then so teasingly and cleverly played with the edges. Mercifully easing off just at the right moment, then suddenly coming on strong to take me to the limits of torment and trepidation. Emotionally it was a complete head f**k, which was exactly what I wanted. Afterwards, in conversation I learned I’d taken much more than I thought I could. Necessary, of course, to get exactly the right emotions flowing.
Later, as we parted She fixed me with Her gaze. I knew I would soon return to obediently submit to Her again. Her strap, Her whipping bench, Her rules. Her strict control. I didn’t need to say a word. She already knew.
I asked The Disciplinarian to concentrate mainly on caning, and asked her to start with fairly light strokes and build up to a fairly extreme level. Because I am submissive as well as being a masochist, I asked her not to use a safeword but to rely on my reactions and her experience to gauge my pain threshold. I am normally nervous on a first session but The Disciplinarian put me at ease and within a few strokes of the cane, it was obvious she knew what she was doing. I relaxed and quickly went into subspace, something that doesn’t always happen with other Mistresses I’ve visited.
I could tell that The Disciplinarianwas really enjoying caning me, and that increased my pleasure too.
If you love any form of discipline, from mild to extreme The Disciplinarian is the Mistress for you, otherwise you are missing a very special experience.
The Disciplinarian is, as you might expect from her name, an expert in giving discipline and corporal punishment with her array of canes, whips, floggers, hairbrushes, slippers, etc. She loves giving it really hard, but will respect your limits. I found that I obtained the maximum pleasure by letting The Disciplinarian have full control over me, with no safewords. She was brilliant at gauging my pain threshold and either staying within my limits or carefully pushing them.
We chatted before the session, to discuss the session, my pain threshold, hard limits, etc., and I rapidly became extremely confident in The Disciplinarian’s ability and desire to enjoy the best possible session with me. And wow, what a fantastic session it was. I was warmed up very well before the caning, thereby enabling me to enjoy every stroke of the cane, very successfully extending my limits to higher than I ever thought possible.
We chatted again after the session – a kind of debriefing – and The Disciplinarian wouldn’t let me drive until she was sure my endorphin high brought on by the session had dissipated. This is real aftercare, delivered by a true expert who cares passionately about her craft and her subjects.
Will I go back again? Yep! Looking forward to having my limits extended again too.